@Renae,
I go to Capital City REIA and Leads to Deals (at the Chinese Buffet) the most frequently and have been to a military veteran, BWI, Baltimore REIAs. I don't mind paying the small monthly fee to be a member because the networking is crucial. You absolutely don't need to buy any product or mentorship program. Just find a way to be valuable to someone to learn from. For instance you can supply money, supply the deal, supply the maintenance/rehab, provide property management, bookkeeping.....and the list goes on and on. Also, I just so happen to have done a deal in Baltimore with @Eric Johnson above by viewing his wholesale deal on one of the meetup emails and then taking it from there. We finally met at the closing table.
The hosts and hostesses of REIAs are a wealth of knowledge and experience but there's some in the room who may be even light years ahead of them. Talk with the members and learn everyone you can. These REIAs have skyrocketed my knowledge and business in the last two years.