I think for sure you are making it to hard on them. Many renters just like buyers want the best rental and area for the best rate.
Depending on type of renter some will just want a place to crash and not care about upgrades or condition.I know by you living there it will eliminate many possible renters.Me personally owning the complex wouldn't want a tenant knocking on my door all the time and if I was the tenant would not want to feel like my every move was being watched.
When I look at property for purchase I run numbers off the bottom 50 percent of rental rates for the area based on class A,B,C,D building and then location. The reason is with conservative numbers I will attract many quality tenants for the low rate and anything over that is icing on the cake but not needed to hit my return projections.
When renting out always put reserves aside for paint,carpet,mechanicals etc.The biggest mistake I see is counting on the full rent money and then getting in trouble when other expenses occur suddenly.
It's just like businesses. If they put money aside from profits and keep re-imaging to keep new and fresh they thrive.If they never re-image they get old and tired and start having problems.
The biggest opportunity for purchasing multifamily is bad managers who are owners because they are easy to turn around.
Is there are college or vocational schools nearby?
A professional going through school or an internship can sometimes be a great long term tenant.