Originally posted by @Shiloh Lundahl:
@Caleb Heimsoth I am sure you of all people are aware of what the millennial mindset is. So it is interesting that you would be asking me to define it other than trying to disprove it defend it. Most millennials don’t like the term millennial mindset. And while it is not true of all millennials, I certainly is descriptive of that generation. So here is the stereo type of the millennial mindset:
- The belief that Information should be free and those that have the information should be willing to freely give it if it benefits others and if they don’t then they are selfish.
- Those that speak the loudest through social media are correct regardless of facts and figures.
- The millennial generation should be spelled MEllennial generation because it is characterized as the ME generation. How does this benefit me. Looking out for number 1 seems to be at the top of the priority list over duty or the general welfare of others or the community (except for the community programs they are passionate about; they are all about being in support of those - and being in support of someone else paying for them).
- Work ethics in general is very low. In the job interview process, the question of the millennial mindset is “what is this company going to do for me,” rather than “what can I provide to this company.”
- Work should be fun and entertaining or it’s not worth my time.
- Entitlement is rampant, and a need for skewed fairness is high, while personal accountability, and the ability to roll with life’s punches is low.
- And last but not least, with the little experience they have, they post on social media as if they are an expert.
I’m certain I have offended many people and the above is not true of all millennials but it is generally the millennial mindset. Where you’ll you say you fall on this mindset?
Shiloh,I think that some of your points are off base and some contradict others. In forming an opinion of an entire generation I would say be wary of listening to the news and the twitter trolls and taking the voices of the vocal minority as a baseline for all millennials.
-All information doesn't have to be free, no one should be forced to teach you and give up their knowledge if they don't want to, but I think that there are people that do enjoy teaching and sharing. They recognize that at some point someone helped them and they want to give back to the "community". I don't think that wanting to keep your knowledge is selfish, however the nature of a mentor/mentee relationship ought to be one more akin to a student/teacher relationship and not an employer/employee. A mentor teaches you, an employer pays you for a job. If your mentor is just having you do jobs then they should pay you for it. This point seems to contradict your point 3 about looking out for the general welfare of others.
-I agree with point 2. I personally don't agree that the vocal minority are correct however
-Looking out for number 1 is the top of the priority list for most people, this is not just millennials. I find it interesting that you list looking out for #1 as a negative, however then imply that people should be looking out for the general welfare of the community. Isn't providing mentoring to the community looking out for the community? Are all mentors that say "What's in it for ME?" embodying a "millennial mindset" ? Are all investors that make money embodying a "millennial mindset" because they are looking out for their pocket? If you choose to really look at things and be honest, everyone is looking out for themselves. No one is going into real estate without thinking about themselves. You may provide a wonderful service to the community by providing safe housing, but you are expecting to be paid for it and wouldn't be doing it if there was nothing in it for you. You are looking out for yourself first, not the community, at least be honest about this fact.
-Work ethic depends on how you're raised and how life pushes you. I've met many driven millennials and many loser millennials. I've also met many driven boomers and many loser boomers. I've met a lot of boomers that were very lucky (especially in California) to have been able to take advantage of crazy home appreciation. They are not financially secure because they invested wisely and worked hard, but because they were in the right place at the right time and the rising tide lifted their boat also. I think it is unfair to compare two generations at a single point in time given the age difference and knowing the effect that time has on wealth creation, earning, compound interest, etc. Many millennials are still in their early earning years while many boomers are at the end. Remember, negativity sells. No one wants to read the story about the millennial that aced the job interview and does his job without incident, they want to read the story about the millennial whose parents had to evict him for being a leech.
-I agree that many millennials want a fulfilling job, anyone does given a choice, however lets remember that there are many millennials that were not raised with a silver spoon and are out working less than fulfilling jobs to pay bills. Lets not pretend that the loser living in his parents basement and not working because its "not fulfilling" is representing the entire generation. Lets also not pretend that all previous generations, given a choice, would have chosen an unfulfilling job over a fulfilling job given a choice.
-Entitlement is high for certain parts of the millennial generation, however I think when it comes to the need for skewed fairness, lack of personal accountability etc, be sure you are not listening to the social media vocal minority...there are many idiots on twitter that don't represent the entire generation.
-isn't "fake it till you make it" a big thing in REI ? I've seen many discussions on building credibility and a following to increase deal flow and private money, most of which hinges on posting like an expert until you are one.
"His attitude thigh was like that if a previous poster and he wanted to get paid well for everything he did." ---I never said people should be paid well for everything, people should be paid at whatever the going rate is for the work they are doing. Someone learning to do roofing should be paid what an apprentice roofer is making.
As far as your family friend goes, if he was enrolled in school but not really going or passing his classes then that is a major red flag already, the drive was not there at first so I'm not surprised to hear that it didn't work out. He sounds like someone with a "millennial mindset". I wouldn't compare this guy to someone who is driven to learn and expects some form of compensation for all the work he is doing. I would go out and spend more time around driven millennials like Caleb or any of the other ones on this forum making a real go of it.
Most people that are in training positions to do drywall or roofing get paid while they learn, this is very standard and the basis of the long standing apprenticeship model. Apprentices are paid less than a journeyman to make up for the fact that they are not as experienced or fast as a fully trained worker, but they are still paid something because everyone has to eat. If your family friend expected a full journeymans wage or higher, then it sounds like a personal problem with unrealistic expectations and not an issue with someone wanting some fair compensation for their work. I work as an apprentice now, I make half of what my chief makes and 1/3 less than what the journeymen make, I don't expect to be paid the same as the guys with more experience, but I do expect to be paid something for the 40+ hours I spend on the job.
Unpaid internships are great if mommy and daddy are paying your bills while you work for free. Most people don't have the financial freedom to work for free.
You say he was living with you, were you paying for his food and other expenses as well, or was he supposed to have another job to pay his bills while working for you for free? Were you actively there teaching him or did you just hand him some drywall tape and tell him to figure it out?
I take issue with mentors who expect lots of free work without adequately compensating those doing the work. If a mentor is going to treat you like an employee then they should pay you like an employee.
The mindset of someone that reads sensationalist news stories about a few bad apples and then wants to paint an entire generation as being the same comes across strongly in your post.