Hey Adam,
Totally feel your pain with purchasing in an expensive market. I recently closed on my first house hack and I went for a 4 bedroom house. I Honestly believe that you shouldn't sacrifice your own personal well being if you are planning to live with 3-4 random tenants.
Two recommendations that I would say,
1. check into houses that would work as a non-conforming duplex and operate a portion of the house as an Airbnb. Typically you will see higher monthly income from STR and this would help reduce your mortgage while maintaining your own independent living space. You don't necessarily need a full kitchen for guest staying for a few days at a time.
2. If you are thinking that you for sure want to rent the rooms to other tenants I would make sure that while you're searching for a home you look for a home that has a kitchen that has enough space to cater to everyone. I personally purchased another refrigerator any put it in my garage for extra food storage.
At the end of the day, it is important to start looking at homes and getting a feel for what your money can afford you and what housing options will work well for house hacking. Good luck and reach out if you have any follow up questions.