Originally posted by @Account Closed:
Saying a pre-nup sets the precedent that you expect the marriage to fail is like saying giving condoms to kids encourages them to have sex. It's an emotional retort to a logical statement, completely gas-lighting, and asinine. Saying that someone considering a pre-nup should ask themselves why they feel like they need one is also gas-lighting.
I didn't put a fence up around my pool because I told my children to not go in there without me, and they know better than to disobey me. Ludicrous.
Keep emotion out of it. It's a business decision. No different than insurance, wise investing, hiring an accountant, pulling permits, etc. If you have assets that you don't want to lose, do all of the things to ensure you don't lose them. Pay your bills, do the maintenance, service the HVAC and appliances, have insurance, do appraisal audits. A pre-nup adds right to it.
It's not about feelings, it's not an emotional discussion, and for the love **** this is not kindergarten.
I don't have a pre-nup because I didn't have any assets when I got married, not for any emotional reason I was just broke.
As one with a very successful marriage, and being a Christian I wholeheartedly agree. The two questions you need to ask yourself is: 1.) Is this your livelihood? And 2.) Do you have children with someone else?
If my full time job was either to be mine despite what happens to the marriage, or I have to give half of it away and reduce my ability to earn an income and a living wage, then the answer is protect it. If I have kids from a previous marriage or even accidentally, I want them to inherit something from me. So I'll protect it.
Get with a lawyer in your state to confirm, but I think a trust has many more benefits and is less messy. If your assets are already locked away in a trust there is no discussion or argument. And should you decide to, you can add her to the trust or as a beneficiary. (Again, confirm with a lawyer in your state).