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Posted over 15 years ago

7 Secrets to Handling Rejection in Your Real Estate Business

It doesn't matter if you're a seasoned veteran real estate investor or just getting started in the world of investing rejection is a part of life.  If you're maximizing your time and focusing on the key business elements (marketing, buyers, sellers and private lenders) then you're going to face rejection. Real estate investing is a sales business and in any sales business, it's a numbers game.


Here are the top 7 Secrets You Can Use to Help You Overcome Rejection. . .  


1.    Don't take it personally. First and foremost remember that it isn't personal.  Think about when you say no to something.  It's rarely about the individual that's presenting it.  It's usually bigger than that.  Don't let a simple "no" ruin your day.  When you hear "no" think "I'm one step closer to YES!"


2.    NEXT!  That's right - it's a numbers game.  Just keep plugging along and think "Next."  When you're talking to sellers you aren't going to get an appointment with everyone.  In fact, we know that through direct marketing, on average, for every 30 calls you get you will get 10 qualified leads.  Out of those 10 leads you will get 1 deal.  That means that you're going to talk to 29 people that you aren't going to do a deal with.  You could dwell on the 29 non deals are you could focus on the fact that you're 1/29 of the way to another PAYCHECK!


3.    Know Your Facts.  Oftentimes rejection isn't rejection at all.  It's a request for more information.  It's your prospect saying, "I don't have enough information to make a decision right now, I need to know more."  If you're talking to a detail oriented person they are going to want to know facts, figures, statistics.  The whole who, what, why, where and how of it.  If you don't give them enough DATA they won't make a decision.


4.    Ask Questions.  Many times "rejection" comes because we haven't filled the need.  If you're too focused on saying what you want to say instead of fulfilling the needs of your prospect then you're missing the boat.  Ask questions of your prospect to determine what their needs are, then let them know how you can fill those needs and what benefits they will receive.  Remember, it's not about what you want to say, it's about fulfilling their needs.


5.    Keep Positive.  It's easy to feel something slipping away and have your attitude slide downhill.  Keep it in check.  Keep upbeat during your meeting and your enthusiasm may become catchy.  Handling things in a professional and postive manner can keep you on the forefront of your prospects mind if their situation changes.  It's not uncommon for investors to get 30-40% of their deals from follow up.  Leaving things on a positive note can help those numbers to increase.


6.    Build Rapport.  Find things that you have in common (hobbies, kids, geography).  Talk about those things and establish a rapport with this person.  It's much harder for people to reject you if they really like you and feel connected to you.  Having rapport won't make someone do business with you that doesn't have a need for your services, but if it comes down to you and another option, they'll choose the person they know, like and trust.


7.    Analyze and Improve.  Everyone can improve their presentation skills.  When you leave a meeting take your driving time to think through what you could have done differently.  Did you establish rapport?  What key "needs" did the prospect have and did you answer how you could meet those?  Learn from each deal and make mental notes for next time.  


Keeping the above in mind and knowing you're not going to get every deal with help you get through those tough days.  The great thing is that there are plenty of motivated sellers out there just waiting to hear what you have to say.  Go out and offer it to them - just remember, fill THEIR need and show them the benefits of working with you! And when all else fails, just yell "NEXT!"

Cortney Jones is a veteran real estate investor, performance coach and licensed broker that has been creatively buying and selling real estate since 1992. Cortney is the co-author of The Ultimate Private Money Solution, a comprehensive program which lays out the step-by-step instructions for acquiring all the private money you will ever need to fund your real estate deals.


Cortney and her partner, Mike Moulton, keep real estate investors informed, up to date and educated at, http://www.TheSharpInvestor.com, a blog that educates investors on cutting edge investing techniques that are working in today's market. Mike and Cortney are both actively investing today so they keep their pulse on the market and bring you tips, tricks and techniques to help your investing "stay sharp." 


Areas of expertise include: subject-to, wholesaling, wholetailing, rehabs, short sales, foreclosures, pre-foreclosures, lease options, rent to own, systems and processes, marketing and private money.


Download a FREE 48 minute call on finding all the private money you'll ever need for all your real estate deals at: http://www.ultimateprivatemoneysolution.com
 


Comments (8)

  1. Great post, Cortney! #1 is applicable for any business, and is something most people have a hard time with. The key is to be comfortable in your own skin. Thanks for sharing!


  2. Very true and we've all been there. Always keep in mind that your sellers and buyers, and even potential lenders have their own stories, their own motivations and their own head games going on too. You're thinking about "the transaction" and they're thinking about their situation. You have to show them the value of what you bring to the table and the fact that it solves their problem(s). Thanks for the commentns


  3. Cortney, Great Post! The only item that ever bothers me is where I will, at first, take it personally. Once I think about "why" I am gtting a negative reply, I get over myself. But at first sometimes I think, are you serious? But you are right. This is a numbers game. Once again Great post! James


  4. Very true! I subscribed to your newsletter. I'm looking forward to learning some new tricks!


  5. Hey Joseph, Thanks for the positive comments. Even when you're a seasoned veteran it's hard to not get discouraged. The thing is to keep in the forefront the real reason (the big why) that you're doing this business. That will help you stay motivated and keep your "eye on the ball." (so to speak)


  6. Great article Cortney. Still being pretty new, it's hard for me not to get discouraged by the no's. It helps to get a little perspective on it once in awhile :)


  7. That's very true. It's the love of getting to those yes's that makes it all worthwhile! Thanks for your comments.


  8. Thanks for lots of great info! I know that the hardest for me is not to take it personally. I keep having to remind myself that real estate investors hear "no" many more times than they hear "yes".