Never Be Lied To Again by David J. Lieberman, Ph.D

I want to start off by saying I'm really excited about this book. I've got several others on the way. This topic interests me for the use in REI negotiations and really, everyday life.

You can find this book on Amazon: Never Be Lied to Again: How to Get the Truth In 5 Minutes Or Less In Any Conversation Or Situation

It's a long title but I think I had to do it that way or I might get in trouble(who knows, I don't wanna find out) I do know that if you're not buying your books from Amazon, you should be. I rarely pay full price and usually will pick up a good used one for dirt cheap. I'm sure Ebay is just as useful, I just never used Ebay before. 

I'm glad I received this one first. When the package came, I do as I usually do and get an impression on the book by reviewing the cover, skimming through the pages to get an idea of what kind of book it's going to be. I'm interested in knowing if the pages are over spaced. I'm interested in reviewing the Contents section at the beginning to get an idea of what the chapters are about and what should I expect from the book. 

The first thing that caught my eye when opening it up was the very first page inside the front cover, it read:

If you've ever heard....

• The meeting ran late.
  
• I was out with my friends.
  
• You can count of me.
  
• I'll call you tomorrow.
  
• It's nothing personal.
  
• 
  

If you've ever wondered.....

• Does he say that to everyone?
• Is she out to get me?
• Is the check in the mail?
• Does he really love me?
• Can I trust him?

If you're tired of......

• Looking foolish
• Feeling helpless
• Being taken advantage of 
• Hiring the wrong people
• Loving the wrong person
• Falling for the same old lines

Then read this book and Never Be Lied To Again. 

I thought WOW!!!

Just five minutes prior to seeing that, someone I know told me, "It's nothing personal" and I believed it! After reading the very first page inside the cover, I realized I was lied to. Something I read later on in the book confirmed that, I'll get to that quote from the book later. 

The other thing that hit me was, I just said, "I'll call you tomorrow" to someone and I didn't realize it at the time, but I did LIED to that person because I NEVER called him the next day. Matter of fact, as of writing this post, I still have NOT called Matt Rosen like promised. I have no excuse, I should stop writing this post and call him, apologize for lying to him and then continue this post. 

This book has blown me away so far. There are no pictures. I was expecting pictures of facial expressions, I think other books that I ordered cover that. I didn't realize it at the time but this book is more about the words and clues when your conversating with someone. It does go over some of the body language to watch for while these certain things are being said. 

I'm only about a 1/3 of the way through and if you've read my other book reviews you'll know that I don't skip ahead and I read it through like it's intended so it may cover other things, I just don't know yet. 

Some of the things covered in the book are things you probably already knew or have heard of like, a liar cannot look you in the eye while lying, the eyes quickly glance a certain direction before speaking etc... I can assure you though there are many, many things you have not been exposed to yet and i'm only 1/3 of the way through. Matter of fact, I'm assuring you that this will be a book I have to read several times to really 'absorb' because it is filled with page after page of amazing content. I can't remember seeing any fluf in it so far. 

Let me direct you to something I never knew but thinking back I can actually remember instances where this was happening and without knowing at the time, I was being lied to. 

CLUE 14

Roadblocks, Barriers, and Obstacles

See if he uses inanimate objects -- a pillow, a drinking glass, anything -- to form a barrier between you and him. Just as you would shield yourself from physical harm, so, too, does he protect himself from a verbal assault. ~ David J. Lieberman Ph.D 

When I read that, I was thinking to myself, how many times have I seen a seller do that to me? 

From now on, I think I'm going to experiement a little. I think when I meet with a seller, I'll place a bottle of water to the side of the seller(s) and see if they use that as an actual barrier like he speaks about in his book. 

There is one more portion of the book that I related to instantly when I read, not only because it just happened to me minutes before I read it, but because I actually notice it all the time and just never knew it really meant anything until now. 

CLUE 19

Silence Is Gold-Plated

 When someone is asked a question, take notice if he continues to add more information without being prodded. You don't acknowledge his answer. He'll continue adding new facts until you respond, thus letting hin know that he's convinced you. ~ David J. Lieberman, Ph.D

Now, I actually broke that little section up into a summary. When the liar doesn't think you believe him by either your silence or initial reaction(verbally or physically) they will continue to add to their story until you acknowledge them and their story. 

This happened to me just the other day. I asked a question to someone, they responded, I did not respond to their answer. The person then continued to add facts, one of them was, "It's nothing personal" I was taken back for a second once I read that section in the book because again, this just happened to me. 

I certainly do not want to accuse that person of lying to me, but if what's in this book has any truth to it, I've already improved my abilities ten-fold. 

I look forward to continuing this book, re-reading it as well as the others that are on the way. I would highly suggest you consider this book or others like it. I don't anticipate using what I'm learning to physically confront the persons I believe to be lying to me in the future but I do intend on using it to whatever advantages I have at the point in time in my REI or other business related negotiations.