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Posted about 15 years ago

Onward Christian Soldiers!

I almost never talk about religion on my blog or in any of my posts. However, it's no secret that I am a Christian - albeit a very imperfect one (aren't we all). The point of this blog post is to discuss my frequent difficulty in maintaining a Christian attitude and appropriate Christian behavior when I'm dealing with - yes, you guessed it - TENANTS!

The latest tenant to move out was a perfect example of this issue. This particular tenant moved in only a few months ago. She is disabled and essentially confined to a wheelchair. During her tenancy, I bent over backwards to help her out. That included making her apartment handicapped accessable at my expense. In addition, when a relative took advantage of her and stole some of her property, I took care of the problem for her. I went above and beyond the call of duty with this tenant.

My problem arose when she suddenly decided to move out, without giving me notice. Even with this extreme lack of courtesy and violation of her lease, I still would have been ok with her if she had just left before the 1st. Unfortunately, she decided not to do that and was still occupying the property on May 1st. To make a long story short, she stayed after the 1st without paying the rent. I knocked on her door and told her that she needed to leave ASAP or I would file an eviction. She did leave, but left a BUNCH of her junk in the apartment. Furthermore, with all that stuff being in the apartment, I couldn't be sure that she was out and I had no way to contact her. I did have a phone number for her son and I called him to explain that I had bent over backwards to help her and that I didn't appreciate the way she was acting. He agreed and said that he would attempt to get someone to remove her belongings.

Sunday, I spent all morning at church running the projection, for both services. Then, later in the evening, I was back at church for our small group meeting. As I was heading home, I received a call from one of her relatives that said that he was at this apartment to move the rest of her stuff but couldn't get in. Since I really wanted her out of there, I agreed to drive down to the apartment on Sunday night to let him in. When I arrived, I found that they had driven their pickup truck right up onto the concrete front deck - I was not happy. Then, when I let them into the apartment and they saw what a disaster the apartment was, they said that they were only there to pick up her couch and a few other things. I asked them what they intended to do about the rest of her stuff and they said that was my problem. THAT WAS IT! I went ballistic and told them what a bunch of scum I thought they were! There was a lot of cursing and nasty discourse (all coming from me) and I let them know that I was VERY angry with them and the tenant! Once again, I had learned the lesson that NO GOOD DEED GOES UNPUNISHED!

There you have it - that is the point of this post. I certainly didn't act much like a Christian. In fact, I find that it is VERY difficult to turn the other cheek when some scumbag steals from me - especially when tenants do this with shocking regularity. I'm sure that there are Christians that could accept this stupidity from the tenants and really shine as a Christian. Unfortunately, that is NOT me! I guess I have a lot of room for improvement!

Comments (9)

  1. I think I might have taken pictures or videotaped these guys, get their license plates, make them think they may be in trouble. It would be good evidence in court against your tenant. I had a tenant that would not move or pay, said she was looking for another place. I said, 'fine, but you need to pay someting while you look." Finally, I evicted and she called and said she was 90% moved out, but really meant to say she left 90% of her stuff including her little chiwawa in the bathroom. I can empathize. I actually bagged up about 8 bags for her to come get, but she hasn't been able to get back to get them. I partly blame myself for a poor choice of a tenant. My preference is to try to channel anger into something more productive. Use the steam for another project, but wash my hands and move on and avoid projecting the anger at that person.


  2. Terrific post, Michael! I can completely empathize with you. On my first rehab project I did everything wrong, including bending over backwards for undeserving employees and even (I can't believe I'm saying this because it was so STUPID) letting one of them stay in one side of the duplex we were renovating, only to have to proceed all the way through the eviction process and clean up a mess just like you described. I had 15 employees that I tried to show the love of Christ and tell them verbally about the rewards of my personal relationship with Jesus, and when they were working for me I felt like their hearts were really turning, but as soon as I ran out of money they thought I was the devil. Now they all hate me and think of me as just another example of a hypocritical Christian. I wish I thought I'd done more good than harm in their spiritual lives. Next time I have tenants I'm going with a variation of what Dory suggested...telling the tenants that I'm the property manager and not necessarily suggesting that I am the owner, too.


  3. Having just read this as another imperfect Christian, I understand your pain and frustration deeply. Actually, this blog entry kind of reminded me of several of the reasons I spent years trying to avoid RE like the plague--only to get back into it. I have several relatives who ended up losing multifamily homes due to crazy tenants. (Actually, that's one of the primary reasons I prefer to hire a great property manager, and just collect checks. I don't want my tenants to know my name, address, or even what I look like.) Although I agree in spirit with Dana about asking for forgiveness, I also agree with Steve that some people simply don't care who they exploit. Matthew 10:16 teaches us: "See, I am sending you out like sheep among wolves. So be as cunning as serpents and as innocent as doves." And Romans 12:19 teaches us to "leave room for God's wrath." In any case, I believe you'll be rewarded in other ways for persevering.


  4. I concur whole-heartedly. Call and apologize to scum and drug addicts??? NEVER


  5. I would not call to apologize because many people see such behavior as a weakness they can exploit. Unfortunately that is how people think! “Turning the other cheek” does not mean you should let yourself be used as a door mat. If you present a strong front as someone who does not allow himself to be taken advantage of it will serve you better.


  6. Michael, I understand your frustration and we all "lose it" once in a while. G_d created forgiveness and not perfect humans. It will probably be an unpopular point but as a Christian man, you should call the guys you cursed out and apologize for your behavior and ask them to forgive you for it. It is not easy but it is what we are commanded to do as followers of Christ. That stuff in the apartment was the responsibility of the former tennant. They, like you were just helping her out. From your statement they obviously did not know what a mess she had left behind. Also, keep in mind that it is not a matter of them forgiving you but a matter of you asking. Once you have asked someone to forgive you the choice to forgive is then placed on them. I would also like to commend you for being transparent and real! A rare quality found in the body nowadays.


  7. I am also a little coarse when it comes to that. And ya know...you only have so many cheeks. One can only take so much. I don't know how many proprties you have, but it sounds you have your hands full at times. It has to be stressful. I say speak your mind. It's your business, and your money.


  8. I'd like to do better, but so far haven't had the discipline to do so. Of course, it's easy to behave properly when there is no conflict. I'm afraid that I'm not very good at "turning the other cheek".


  9. It's hard to be "good" when your dealing with complete morons, and people who care about nothing. I say "do what cha gotta do". If it means being not so nice to get your point acrooss, so be it