Buyer's list vs seller's list

[Pamela J Baergen]

This is what I don't understand: if I'm a real estate investor (fix 'n flip, rehabber, fix and hold, etc.) I WANT a list of wholesalers sending me a steady stream of good deals to analyze and buy. Right?

If I'm a wholesaler, i WANT a list of cash buyers that are interested in purchasing good deals - per their criteria - from me. Also right?

So why is it so hard to get A&B together? They both basically want the same thing. 

Instead of looking for deals, I just finished reading 2 dozen articles and numerous posts, making copious notes, following dozens of links just to start get my buyer's list for out-of-state wholesaling together. (You can tell my head is reeling.)   My conclusion is that there is no "10 best ways" or easy way or right way. Let me know if I'm wrong.