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Nathan Holt
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Should I cut off people who aren't supportive of me?

Nathan Holt
  • Newark Ohio
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Since mid 2020 when I started trying to better myself and put my life on a positive and successful track I have been spending every spare second gathering as much information as possible and putting it together to share with anyone who will listen or show an interest. I post regularly at least a little something on my social medias that I found helpful or informative, a lot of times it's a quote with a link to the source I heard or read it from, hoping it might hit someone who needs or wants to see it.

A lot of people I listen to say that you should limit your connections with anyone who is going to actively try and stand in your way or hold you back from your goals.

Having formerly been a millennial far-left socialist and thus most of my friends also aligning with those views, many of my friends grew a grotesque disgust for me and try quite often to tear me down, tell me I will never succeed or come up with reasons or excuses as to why they think I am trying to exploit, enslave, manipulate, abuse people etc. The typical "landlords are evil" rhetoric. 

A lot of them have over time already block me when they realized they weren't going to break me and make me give up on my dreams through various tactics. Some of them still like to come at me with a lot of negativity. 

Should I unfriend or block the people who still do this or should I continue to try and have civil discussions with them about our differing views in the hope that maybe I can help them succeed someday too? I really want to help people and see them succeed, and these people are (or at least used to be) my good friends, I don't think they are having any affect on me but things right now are going pretty easy and I don't know if I want to risk waiting until the negative mindset does try to take hold of me because I know it might be too late by then.

Any advice?

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I have many friends with different political/life philosophies. Some are hardcore liberals, others are MAGA types. 

I'm still close friends with them, and we share laughs and beers, and fun times. I do my thing, and they do theirs. 

If they were to give me an endless amount of grief over what I do with my money, personally or professionally, they would not longer be my friends - I'd move on. I'd bet/hope they do the same in reverse if I get too pushy with trying to get them to get into REI.

Friends and family can disagree, but they should still care for and support one another. If your friends won't do that and make you miserable, drop them - they are not good friends, and will hold you back. If your friends simply disagree with your philosophy but can still support you as an individual, nothing wrong with noting the difference and continuing to hang out! 

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