wholesaling disappointment in washington state

[Amber Brown]

So I am going to be honest here,

I have not been very successful in my wholesaling adventure in the last year and I need help so, now I am attempting to try to network with other wholesalers to see if any one out there with experience is willing to network and offer advice (which i probably should have tried doing in the first place). I have a pretty good program I can use to find the people that are delinquent in taxes/mortgages/etc. and I have 3 that I might be able to wholesale, but none are willing to talk decent numbers....
My problem?

One house doesn't want to sell because he thinks it is fine as is (obviously not motivated yet, but his house is crazy tiny and needs a serious update before it can sell for a good price)

One house is in foreclosure. she is definitely motivated, however it needs a TON of work, she owes a ton in mortgages and there are other investors (Cards etc) that know about her now (She started out as a friend of a friend needing to sell. I think she is shopping around.) Essentially i have been attempting to bird dog this house to other investors to see what can happen. 

and the 3rd is my neighbors house whose mom just died and he can't mentally take care of a house. the house is **** (almost literal cat poop and other nasty crap) but the problem with this one is a friend of mine wants to turn the property into townhouses YUCK :( 

Any-who, obviously good starting points with houses but not a single one biting on what I offer them.

Are many investors of Washington going outside the state? Which states are popular right now for flippers? is there an easyish way to tell without just searching the "Craigslist" of each state?