Just getting started but need answers first

[Kimberly Cagle]

Hi, 

I am in a situation that is probably not the best one right now but here goes.  I am married and have 3 kids.  My husband is legally blind and can not see to drive. I work 35 miles from home making not very much and I have no formal education. My husband who never supports me on anything and spends money on things we don't need is always fighting against me.  I  (making a bad decision to do this) took $25,000.00 out of my 401-K because he wanted to start a tractor selling business and it went under in 6 months b/c the wholesaler was selling him lemons.  With that being said I am now paying back that loan out of my pay and it is about a 500.00 deduction from my pay monthly.  I was wondering if I stop paying into the 401-k and not even discuss that with my negative husband and start putting into investments  of some sort or real estate.  I love real estate but work so far from home and am gone to work Mon - Fri and am the only driver in the family so far.  I am really ready to do this and would not quit my job but I would have to take my vacation days to do this if needed.

Thank you  for listening and please respond if you have any ideas.