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Can I Refuse to Show?
I have a duplex in upstate NY, renting out the upper and living in the lower. We have minimum qualification standards in place and let everyone interested know about them. I know we cannot tell people not to apply for the apartment, regardless of if they meet this criteria. However if I'm pre-screening them on the phone and they don't meet the standards (by their own admission) but still want to see it, can I refuse to show them the apartment? Does refusing to show the apartment to them violate a fair housing law?
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@Mike Chevalier as others mentioned, you are not bound by fair housing due to owner occupying the property. You just can't tell them why. For example, maybe you don't want kids living in the property. You can't advertise "no kids" but you can deny an applicant if they have kids. Let me be clear, I do not advocate discrimination but there is a valid reason for this exemption. For example a female renting out rooms in her home may not want to rent to men for privacy reasons.
As far as dealing with this situation. If they do not meet the screening criteria, explain to them you do not show the property to people who do not meet the criteria. The reason is they would not be accepted if they applied, therefore it is a waste of your time and their time. They need to find a home and it will not be yours. This may feel confrontational or uncomfortable for you to say, but if you need to do it. Do it on the phone, not in text or e-mail.
One of the hardest skills to master as a landlord is saying no, but it is the most important skill you will ever learn. They say, "can I see it anyways" and you say "no". Simple.