Parents/landlord trying to kick out me and my boyfriend.

[Account Closed]

My boyfriend is 23 and has been on his mothers leases since he turned 18. I moved in with him six months ago with him and his mother and siblings and her mothers ‘fiancee’. After I moved in I immediately set out to clean up the apartment they had all been living in at the time because it was filthy and I figured I was doing them all a favor and providing in a way that I could since I did not have a job. After awhile, it was very hard to keep up with all the chores, especially when Dougs siblings made it worse by not even bothering to clean up after themselves. I suspect the behavior has been that way since they were children and were never taught any different. Me and my boyfriend asked for help from the siblings (my boyfriend was already helping me, and was also juggling school, we both got jobs and still had to do all the cleaning) and me and him were immediately met with backlash. At first it started with simple irritation on the siblings and mother siblings part, but it’s only escalated from there. We live in a new house that my boyfriends mother rents (my boyfriends on the lease) and new problems have arose. Not only is the house constantly filthy, the trash builds up and rarely is the house ever given a good cleaning besides dishes being washed, we aren’t treated with respect. I’m pregnant and the stress is really getting to me. Me and my boyfriend want to move out asap but we’re  both still looking for jobs. we’ve had jobs in the meantime but after some difficulties, like me leaving during my first term, we’ve had to find new jobs. My bf’s mother also smokes around me (I’m pregnant, and this could hurt my child) and does not care. She smokes in the house and around the house even tho a tho she signed a non smoking lease. She also lied about her two pets being service dogs when she moved in (I paid for my small weiner dog). The reason I'm here is because the other day they started an argument with us, my boyfriend asked them to stop doing drinking our milk (we buy all our own groceries) and it immediately started a big argument that ended with them yelling and throwing a dollar and change at our door, and now they want to kick us out. My mother informed me we have tenant rights. My questio is what can they do? And if they do try and kick us out, can i tell THEIR lord about all their lease violations (smoking on property when they signed a non smoking lease. Lied about their dogs being service dogs. House is not kept up to any sanitary standard. House is regularly filthy meaning trash buildup and bathroom utilities being disgusting.) and have them evicted? (I didn’t want a fight, I  just wanted to save up enough money to provide for my unborn child)

[Nathan Gesner]

@Account Closed I can give you advice on how to deal with your current rental situation but it won't do any good. You're in this hot mess because you've repeatedly made bad choices in life. Any solution we give you will be temporary. 

If you ever want a better life for you and your child, you need to assess what you're doing. You and your boyfriend are "trying" to get jobs? Sorry, but a highschool kid with zero experience can have a job in a week. I'm in a town of 9,000 and hear young people complaining about the lack of jobs but then I watch a 20-year-old from Ghana walk into town and she's working two full-time jobs in two weeks. 

You have to escape the circus. Do it today, not next week or next month or after you've saved up some money. You can sleep on a friend's couch and offer to clean their house or do their laundry or cook dinner in exchange for some temporary shelter. Sell everything you've got but the clothes on your back, including the dog, and put in applications for every restaurant, grocery store, or fast-food joint within 30 minutes walking time. Work 80 hours a week and spend the other 40 sleeping and taking care of your health. Within one month you can save up the money to move into your own tiny, cheap, dumpy little apartment that keeps you safe and dry while you continue to save. 

Stop sleeping with your boyfriend. You need to leave him just as much as you need to leave his family. The nut doesn't fall far from the tree and birds of a feather flock together. He's still a boy tied to his mama's worn-out apron string and you shouldn't have a relationship with him until he's man enough to stand on his own and support you and the child. Why should he make any effort to change when you're already having sex with him? Free milk and a cow...

This is one of those times where life hands you an opportunity and you have a choice to make. Nobody falls up a mountain; it takes hard choices, work, struggle, injury, and pain. Will you make the hard choice and suffer for a while in an effort to improve your situation? Or will you take the easy road, catch up on Game of Thrones, and complain about how life isn't fair?