How do I relate to the apt. manager

[Jamie Young]

In looking for a new apartment I called a place. I wasn't sure if it was a HUD apartment or owned by a local place that manages many apartments. Someone answered the phone when I called (I know now it was the apartment manager). I told her I was looking for an apartment and asked her if the apartment I was calling was a HUD apartment or if it belonged to ____________ (the large company locally that rents many apartments). The apt. manager began to shout into the phone "I know why you are asking. Because if something goes wrong you will call HUD and complain!". I told her I was only asking because I didn't know if it was a HUD apartment. At that point she apologized. I found out it is a HUD apartment managed by the large company I mentioned. I did wind up renting one of the apartments and today went to sign the lease. During the meeting, the apt. manager said I was being "difficult". I asked her what it was I was doing. She said she needed some information she had emailed me about just that morning. I told her I didn't have it but had emailed my employer as soon as I got her request by email and my employer sent me a PDF of the information. We were in the rental office and I was trying to forward her the PDF from my phone but it was difficult to do. She was getting frustrated. I was disappointed when she called me "difficult" because I was excited to be there and was thrilled at the idea of moving into a new apt. I wanted her approval. Soon she asked me to sign a piece of paper that says she can record meetings we have together and that she can go into my apartment and record things if ncessary. For example, the condition of the apartment. She said "HUD didn't say this but our lawyer said to do it". I felt uncomforable about signing something saying she could record our meetings togther and make recordings of things in my apartment and I told her that I would like to take that one paper with me and have a lawyer look at it if she didn't mind. She jumped out of her chair, put both hands on her desk, leaned in and said "I don't know if I can continue with this" and said it with anger. I asssured her I meant nothing of it, I just wanted to make sure I understood the ramifications of having meetings, conversations recorded and allowing her into my apartment to record things. She then sat down, we continue with the paperwork and I left. I am not sure how to relate to someone like her. Does anyone have any tips? Someone said to ‘report' her to the main office. I have never reported an apartment manager in life. So I am not sure I want to do that. Any advice for having an apartment manager who is kind of aggressive or maybe even short tempered would be helpful. And feedback about "reporting her" is welcome. My goal is to get along with people. But right now I am fearful of what she might say next or how she will act. How do people normally handle others who as kind of hard to get along with? Is reporting them the answer? I am afraid to. I need some answers. Please help.