Tenant Puts Me In Very Bad Position After Partial Restraining Order & I Serve Notice

[Burt L.]

Last month I received a call from another landlord, asking for a referral on my long-term tenants.  I was certain it was for both tenants as they've always been a couple and was happy to provide a good reference as the two have been fine tenants and are now on MTM and have every right to move, if desired. I received no call notifying me they were moving or about providing a referral, beforehand or afterwards.

I called the tenant who has always handled communication to learn when they were moving. I was informed that only the gal was moving and that the new location was only for her. Then she texted me a copy of the partial restraining order that she had against her long-term boyfriend and saying she was getting the keys for the new location in two days. Under the restraining order the two can have contact but there are other restrictions on the fellow. 

As it was now the first of the month, she was moving imminently, and I don't want such a person remaining, I served a 30 day notice to vacate  -on the following day. The girlfriend is now waffling on moving out and says she doesn't want to lose the 8 years she has invested in the relationship. She insisted I not tell the boyfriend that I had knowledge of this, and didn't tell him I would be serving the 30 day notice. He just walked up on it and she pretended not to know why I was serving notice, though I had told her this is just why I am serving the 30  notice to vacate. 

The fellow doesn't want to speak on the phone and has sent many threatening messages- mostly legally threatening. I contacted the police and had them do a general welfare check on the gal and they looked at his phone to examine the messages and the police said they weren't of a nature they can call personally threatening. I let the fellow know his texts were now blocked, and he proceeded to play loud music until an escalation of words resulted with the tenant next door. That tenant contacted me and I suggested he call the police. He said he would take care of it directly and is of an imposing figure and I haven't heard further on it currently. 

The tenants says he won't move and these things tend to end with property damage and costly physical evictions. Should I let him know this is of his own doing - which it is - and set aside the girlfriends strong insistence that I not tell him I have knowledge of the restraining order? I don't know if it would put her safety into danger but he seems to be more of a troll and won't speak on the phone. She's done a fine job of "playing dumb" with him about why the notice was served. 

How Might I proceed? Sorry for all the info here - not sure how else to present it.