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Would you agree to this seller's addendum?
My husband and I tried to purchase a 2/1 SFH earlier this week from a flipper. It is in move-in condition, could be put on the rental market the moment we close, ties up very little of our funds, and fits our performance parameters. A no-brainer. We put in a full-price offer, with only financing and inspection contingencies. The financing contingency was included only because I wasn't sure our lender would write a mortgage that small. We offered $5k EMD for a house that lists for $54,900 to show that we're serious.
The seller responded with the attached nine-page Addendum. I'm interested in what the BP community thinks of this addendum. I'm not an attorney, but it seemed really problematic to me.
What problems and or concerns do you have with this?
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@Katherine S. - so... Walking away from the deal because of the addendum... I get it, that would have been my first response too, and it was as I read through the pages. After only a couple of paragraphs, I saw the one-sided nature of the document and had the exact same reaction, as reflected by @Ned Carey. Then I checked my ire, took a breath and actually said to myself, what if this were my deal, what would I do... maybe that's why I actually read the rest of the addendum.
LIFE LESSON (for me, you're welcome too)... There's a class I took about 15 or so years ago - literally the most impactful class I ever took - no kidding. High school, College, Professional Development, RE Investing, etc... - no class in any of these categories nor any other class I have taken holds candle to this one. Almost instantly after finishing the course and literally, ever since, I began applying and continue to apply lessons from that class to business and home life alike. The class was called "Crucial Conversations" and it changed my life, the way I look at conflict and my response to it... for the most part... I still have my moments, but they are much fewer and farther between. I use the techniques in buying, selling and remodeling negotiations. I use them at home, in the parking lot - heck, pretty much everywhere.
Basically, the nut is, in hard conversations and situations, the type that generally have the potential for high emotion and high impact, when the conversation gets difficult, it's often easier to just let emotions govern and cut to the bottom line - "Frak-Off"! It's the Easy Response, and the TYPICAL ONE. But, what does that response accomplish? Does that move the ball forward in YOUR favor? Does that approach help ME/YOU reach your goal? As I read the document, FrO was my first instinct. But that would not have helped close the deal.
As I indicated, I looked at this question as though I was facing the problem myself - FrO would not have moved the ball forward in MY favor, so I persisted in reading and assessing. This may have bee a salvageable deal, addendum and all. Yes, it's one sided, and extremely so. I get their intent, save their bacon, toss yours in the fire, get an angle etc.
What I presented were SOME options in response to the addendum that Might have allowed you all to get to -YES. There are many variations and options that could have changed the mind of the seller, while still preserving the buyers goals.
Aaagh - too many words... There may have been a way, but it can't happen when one or both of you walk away from the table. Sometimes a different approach to the difficult conversation is exactly what's needed, an learned approach. Though, sometimes walking away exactly right too.