I can be a real A-Hole help me mend my ways

[Jeremy Woods]

Let me start off by saying normally I’m funny, easy going and a joy to be around. But when it comes to real estate deals I’m the complete opposite.

Not only am I an agent myself but I purchase mainly out of state rentals so I have to rely on others to get me the necessary information in a timely manner. The other day I put an offer on a 28 unit, in order to get a prequal which of course the seller was demanding right away I needed a rent roll at the minimum for my lender. I asked my agent to get this information for me, three days later I finally received it. I was pissed because in my lenders eyes I look dumb for pushing hard to get a timely prequal when all she needed was a basic piece of information and we took forever to get it to her. Instead of letting it go I ripped my agent who is also my out of state property manager. In retrospect I know he can only go as fast as the seller but something about it just really set me off.

This is just one of many things where I have flown off the handle because I am not in the drivers seat of the situation and felt like I would have handled it better/differently. I feel like as an agent myself I have different expectations for what needs to get done and how I expect them to go. I know that no one will ever do deals like I do personally or manage my properties how I self manage the few that I still do but is my anger for these situations unrealistic. If not how can I be productive in my frustration?

I torn because my agent/property manager is great in so many areas; finding the best price on repairs, smoothing over issues with the city, managing remodels without crazy up charges and managing tough tenants but if I’m going to keep this relationship growing I need either learn to deal with my frustrations or I need to do something different.

Anyone else like me and if so who did you work on it?