Higher Caliber Friends #askbp

[Travis Fisher]

"You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with" - Jim Rohn

"Tell Me Who You Spend Time With, And I Will Tell You Who You Are"

What have you had to change in your life to to gain better friendships?  Where have you found these friends?  I see this as kind of a catch 22.  Higher caliber friends aren't going to spend time with you unless you have improved yourself, at least somewhat, to their level.  

I'm having a difficult time leaving old friends and their ways, probably because I haven't made new friends yet. I can see how they hold me back though.  At least I know what I need to change.  :)

Also any stories about how successful friends have changed your life would be appreciated.

[Alexander Felice]

The way I approach this is I stop being friends with people who aren't growing first. So once I have no friends, and focus on self improvement it's easier to find better friends.  I basically just trade up. So get used to being friendless first, then it's easier to choose who you can bring in your circle. 

Friends to me are a resource like any other. I don't need them to make myself feel better, or give value to my life. I have friends to learn from/with and exchange opportunity. The ones who aren't bringing my life have got to go. I have a fiance that already takes up 20% of my top 5 to satisfy my "emotional support" friends. The other 4 are all business.