Getting started with a risk-averse spouse

[David Rosenhaus]

Greetings fellow BPers,

Here are the pros and cons as I see it, of having a risk averse spouse:

PROS:

Every move, thought, plan, expense, phone call, email is questioned. This is good because it forces you to be sure that every step you take is moving you in the right direction, and you're not wasting time on distractions.

CONS:

Every move, thought, plan, expense, phone call, email is questioned. This is bad because it undermines your confidence, makes you feel stupid, makes you scared, and slows down your forward momentum.

Communication is obviously the key to any great relationship, but what do you do when your communication only triggers fear in your partner? They don't mean to be negative, but the "helpful" comments hurt anyway.

Anyone else have a similar experience with that?

[David Rosenhaus]

@Joe Splitrock

Thanks Joe. It's a combination of both. I'm knew and learning so of course I don't have the answers to put her mind at ease, and am therefore a little sensitive. I know as a fact she's not trying to undermine me, but my own trepidation responds to her fear. And her reactions are definitely emotionally based. I need to honor her feelings without limiting my own progress.

Understanding the technical aspects is the easy part. Execution is the hard part. Kinda like getting started in RE investing, right?