When your REI plans do not match your spouses

[Christine D.]

I am stuck officially and have been for well over a year. Part of the problem is that my spouse and I are completely different pages with our ideas of what properties to search for and go after. This initially started with a goal to go after commercial properties, most specifically five or more housing rental units. The plan was for me to learn everything needed to evaluate deals and to make this work. Initially, things went very well and I did a great job of identifying properties pulling in cap rates over 8.5%. When I would bring them to my spouse with the numbers, it turned into a waiting game with my spouse insisting we wait and think about it. Every time I found one of these fantastic deals, we never put in an offer and within three days they were under contract by someone else. This has since degenerated further. The spouse is looking at everything from SFR, BRRRR packages, to mixed-used, to commercial office, to purchases that get us nowhere (another personal residence for us). The spouse is also suddenly announcing wanting to sell income-producing properties we have now and own outright!

For anyone who has been in this situation in which your spouse is not at all on the same page as you for real estate and got them to come around, how did you accomplish it?