Is there a thing as being too aggressive?

[Andy Chen]

Hi Everyone,

The questions I'm about to propose may be a bit odd and I'm hoping the community can help guide me as I'm feeling a bit lost at this point. Here goes.

So for the past month or so, I've reached out to referrals that I thought was a great start to forming my REI team.

One is a seasoned REI that have many years of experience in RE with multi-million $$$ portfolio and have his own company and also a referral from a good friend of ours. He initially came up really friendly and bought my son and I breakfast and proposed he could help me start out. First he asked me to look for properties online and do my own assessment. I've done exactly as he told me and sent him links to Redfin/Zillow on properties that I thought met my criteria and I would almost do this every other day. Slowly he stop answering my calls and emails.

The other is a good friend of our family.  She owns a private investment company and also a RE agent.  I honestly thought she would make a great partner as we both shared the same vision of doing real estate to retire early.  She recently decided she couldn't do flips due to her financial situation and want to pursue a bye and hold strategy.  I told her I'm open to that idea as well given how we initially talked about flipping first to build capital and then do the buy and hold down the road.  Now we are at a point where we stop talking about RE period and she gone silent scope so I got the idea.  I instead asked her if I can use her private lending company to fund my pursuits and she answered a few questions of mine, but the more questions I send her, the less she responds.

In both situations was I too aggressive to a point where I start to feel I'm nagging?  Did I scare both of them away with all my questions and ambition?

Please advise...thanks!