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Travis Bodnar
  • Murrieta, CA
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Getting past the fear - How to convince the significant other?

Travis Bodnar
  • Murrieta, CA
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I am a dreamer.  I am a planner. I analyze to the point of analysis paralysis.  That said, I tend to lean toward the "take chances while I am young enough to make up for my mistakes".  My wife - in profile pic as well - aint she a gem? - is overly conservative (and bad at math).  She is the type that believes you put your head down, work hard for the man (boo), and hope to retire at 65/70 by "saving". Now I have started to read, listen and watch everyone talk about the options to make money in real estate. My question is, how do I convince my wife that investing in RE is the best option for us long term?  How do I get her to understand?  Has anyone else had a similar situation?  I feel our best option is either working with turnkey providers, buy and holds or partnering as we both have full time jobs we like pursuing for now.  Whats everyones advice?  

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Viola Enfield
  • Austin, TX
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Viola Enfield
  • Austin, TX
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Travis, you remind me of my son, and that is a compliment.  I will tell you what I would tell him.  Celebrate the differences.  Focus on building trust and positive synergy.  Help your wife to see your strengths and respect them.  If you have not given her any reason to doubt you; then she needs to give you some latitude by supporting your efforts.  That being said, she needs reassurances that you will listen to her women's intuition, and that you understand that she has a stronger need for financial safety.  Wise men listen to their wives intuitive intelligence.  Build her tolerance to risk one small win at a time.  Much of her resistance could be fear of the unknown.

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