There is a program referred to as a Rollover as Business Startup that allows you to use existing tax-deferred retirement savings to capitalize a business that you are actively engaged in. 

This might actually get you to your next property more quickly while saving significant tax dollars and satisfying all lenders.

I have decided I am willing to invest in a SFH far away from me, in different states like NJ, PA, CT.I have around 30 grand in savings from this past year.

Without a discount I think you'll find the $9k ish in closing costs and the higher rate will make you wish you saved for your next purchase organically  5 or 10 yrs from now.I'd wait a year or 2, ask the seller for a discount and save up for your next buy. 

My wife, being a Realtor, saved us money on the commission we didn't pay to the seller (us). 

Why not move somewhere that has proper employment so you can earn and save money?

Im currently looking for recommendations for a foundation engineer in the Oakland/East Bay area of Northern, CA who can provide an unbiased opinion on whether there are foundations issues that need to be resolved.

Self managing would save you that $100 each month to allow you to make the rent more competitive.You also always have the ability to sell the unit if it becomes too much of a hassle and move the capital gains to another asset.Best of luck.

Save or invest asap?

My income from my job should allow me to make payments on it if I do not have enough saved up from the rent.