In many states, the listing agent wont even have a fiduciary duty to you, which means you've likely gotten fleeced in the past and didn't even know it..  

Second, what can I do to not have the tenants totally destroy the house, before going to court? 

Well puttwo funny .. not with my two left feet I wont. !!!  

Stealing a door off another apartment to replace one the boyfriend destroyed, filthy living conditions, daughter stealing peoples mail and discharging fire extinguisher in laundry room, etc.

Yes, there are certain fees and or services that your allowed to shop for, however you wont save much more than $50-$100.00 on these fees.

I'll put your places on there it wont cost you a penny.

He currently rents them out for below market value to friends/family to guarantee himself a check with the expectation that they wont ask for anything.

Just texted me telling me he wont have the rent on time .  

Every little minor detail and regulation you want in the lease but that lease is just as good as the ones signing it ..it’s only good if they actually read it or follow it which most wont anyways .look  If they are paying the rent and not destroying the place then leave them be .your going to be losing tenants money and your sanity by forcing a leopard to change its spots .

While i believe it is significantly less than what you have now, there is a number that banks normally wont surpass.