I am used to tracking costs with my job so it has not been much trouble for me.

@Allen L. the process of tracking people down is called "skip tracing".

So, I think the only way to buy it would literally be to keep track of it until it gets listed for sale.

If you want to raise some $ and do joint ventures, track record and experience mean way more, but a degree adds, but doesn't subtract. 

There are expenses and repairs that you'll want to check into and keep track of, and if you're home is still your primary residence it may also be a source of stress as well.

I always advocate for going off-market, and talking directly to sellers--it's often far more possible to work out something creative (ie using little cash) when you're working directly with the seller, rather than working through agents and competing with the listed MLS market. 

The only way it would be her fault is if she rammed the door, which would be obvious as it would fold the door in and off track.

It sounds like a heart to heart might be in order - to share your frustrations and to sincerely let your spouse know that you WANT it to work out.

We will not be done for another 5 months but the project is on track and going well.

Take the best advice given here, which is to have a goal of being debt-free and keep careful track of every move you make to get there!