Would  I ask an engineer or an architect.

Now the County Board of Health has denied the plan as presented by the septic engineer at their once a month meeting last night.

It takes time and money.8) Go to the city, and talk to these departments, and maybe more:Planning, Zoning, Building Dept, Fire Dept, Engineering Dept. 

In the meantime, you need to talk to zoning, planning, building depts, and maybe engineering, tax assessor, tax collector, etc. 

I worked as a software engineer, so life to me is like debugging codes.

Or am I just an anal engineer?

@Mai Barnes@Dennis M. is completely wrong, despite his dual economics and finance doctorates.I have it on good authority that @Caleb Heimsoth is completely unqualified for this sort of prognostication with an engineering background, of all things.Thanks to my Greek heritage, I can read the stars and the coffee grounds and I am certain it's going to be in 118 days.

I am a Structural Engineer but recently became a mom and I now have a big drive to have more freedom with my time so I can spend more time with my family.

The process should be simple, but it's not.In any case, your key here is a Civil Engineer. 

I am a 25 year old engineer who just purchased my first home in the Minneapolis area.