Save it for that screaming deal so you can make your offer the most competitive.

b) I managed, by a lot of hard work and a little bit of luck, to get a screaming deal in my home zip code.  

Your 8-12% can suddenly look more like 12-15% - even without any icing, that's bloody good to take to the bank.Ziv Magen

(Remember this is an apples to apples comparison, not a grandma cannot pay her mortgage payment screaming deal).

If you do have a screaming deal, have the 30-40% that a HML will require,  go that route instead of giving up equity. 

whoops..good catch steve..still i don't like that you have to put up 90,000 to make it a profitable deal....the deals are good when they work with 100% financing (not saying you have to get 100% financing, the amount of the downpayment sholdn't affect if the deal is profitable or not....for instance, you could put down 300,000 as dp on this property..is it a screaming good deal then??)

Her behavior became worse and worse, and she started threatening me and would scream at me when she was in the back yard.

Nothing screams "stale" more than exterior pictures from another season.Like I mentioned, It seems to me (and I don't have access to your MLS) that you priced it too high initially; that can be a fatal mistake, now you are in a downward spiral and any offer you might get will automatically below asking price. 

@Ned Carey Ned the only difference in our market is that the competition is SO KEEN  and these are semi rare.. that I usually just buy it first.. then work down the food chain... but these are in all cases that I do SCREAMING deals  LOL.s.. so you can stub your toe and still do fine.

You don't need to list and price these items with a seller, so long as they know you're doing improvements they will be in the right frame of mind not to scream at you and get an attorney....at least to a reasonable point. :)