This being my 2nd long-distance rental and I had totally no idea how to approach it.

So what does everyone thing about this approach? 

My question is how to approach this new lender in California if its a possibility they are unaware of the mortgage?

Ive spent alot of time reading and researching how wholesaling works and i am approaching cking the point where i am ready to start do-ing rather than just reading.

I was recently approached about a potential seller financing deal, which I ultimately passed on, but have since then researched the topic and would like to prepare myself if the right opportunity / deal presents itself in the future.

The cleanest approach would be to satisfy the RMD with other IRA funds or sell the property so you will have the cash to satisfy the RMD. 

Id  like to approach or contact homeowner however I'm just not sure exactly how to go about it.

I know people who could have qualified for a A paper conventional loan but choose to keep tapping into these commercial products to take advantage of the straight forward, business purpose approach.  

By the time you find a property, you likely will be approaching 60 days anyway.

Chicago has taken the approach just tax you to death (it is Illinois).