I moved to Columbus a few years ago (from Portland, Oregon which was super expensive) to become a full time real estate investor, and ever since, I've completed quite a lot of BRRRRs, flips, and own a successful rental portfolio here in Columbus Ohio.

4) any Charlotte based resources that come recommended to help me structure this properly?

this is very tough loan to get and normally happens with friends and family or if you have free and clear property to use as cross collateral.. if you dont have that.then be very careful of fake lenders who will tell you what you want to hear and get you to send money in advance of funding.. internet is full of these types. 

I am wondering how the experienced investors out there weigh's in on joining the local REIA organizations.

I have a good full time w2 job so coming up with a down payment is not an issue.

How can I structure this deal better to use as vacation home.

Also, is there a tax benefit in structuring my entities this way? 

Complete your full exchange and immediately after do a cash-out refinance on the property And use that money (not taxable) to improve the property.3.

Fast forward to now and my dad now flips homes full time and doesn't have to drive around the US anymore (he used to be a truck driver).

A third party bidder is on the hook for the full amount.