I'm going to talk to customer support with both companies again, but thought I'd check on any thoughts from those who might have had personal experience with either company or changing programs in general.

Banker suggested using check, Zelle or wiring money from bank current bank account but my name will be on the check, wire, etc. 

I actually have done personally exactly what you're describing - HELOC on primary residence, use that to purchase new primary, move into new primary and rent the previous home(4 times in 5 years).

Banks will price their construction debt at WSJ + 1 point.

I'll be around this weekend if you want to meetup and talk in person while you pass through. 

I personally found I’m good at it if it’s a simple job, normal easy walls, but hire out if its 2-story height, painting cabinetry, wood windows etc as they are a all a big pain.

The VA loan assumption can be done by a non-va buyer, as long as that person selling does not use their VA loan benefits on their next purchase.

But I raise it incrementally and give them a respectful notice in person.

If you're going to manage a GC, make sure to meet them in person and avoid paying for the entire job upfront (typically for smaller jobs, you will pay half upfront, and half at the end). 

however for one living in CA I do like Vegas personally ( I have invested there) as I have invested in over 20 states.. what I like about Vegas is the age of the homes you would buy at 500 to 1 mil.. no really nasty weather that adds to differed maintenance..