There was pushback from lenders because “I wouldn’t have any skin in the game” if I used investors. 

Sounds like the other two are the ones putting skin in the game and you're the one that brings them the deal...?

When you only have 1 rental, you are more likely to have difficulties.

Search for the thread " Delaware Statutory Trust DST 1031 exchange Difficulty giving up control".

Borrower has no skin in the game because fully financed so higher risk for lender 

But, it is just those imperfect markets and deals that may have hidden value that others' have difficulty recognizing.

I'm having difficulty seeing how I can fix this all without spinning my wheels and wasting time, money, and energy.

Nonetheless there is always a time for new blood and skin to the game, so looking for contacts of Good/awesome/great PM in mcallen who are creative and well connected in the Mcallen area.

That being said I understand the difficulties of property management and renovation in these areas.

No limitations on that except for the difficulty with financing as I mentioned above.You did hit on the key point I'm wrestling with.