My question is: To what degree do i let my investor know the costs of everyrhing, costs of acquisitions, costs of rehabbing, marketing, etc.?

Please consider:Looking to partner with 2 other individuals (no family connection whatsoever) on an 80 unit multifamily --  party A being my SDIRA LLCEach party will contribute 1/3 of the required funds and have 1/3 ownership---this is not a syndication but a partnershipBalance financed via non-recourse agency debt with one of the other partners being the Sponsor Property would be purchased under a separate LLC with equal ownership My contribution would be made not from me but from my IRA LLC  --  not sure if this would be a loan to the joint ownership LLC or my SDIRA would need to be on titleNormally a deal like this could and in this case would be structured with a couple of additional expense items:An acquisition fee and potentially a disposition fee upon sale say 1.5% to the individual putting the purchase or sale deal togetherAn asset management fee (this is not a property management fee but more of an administration / manage the manager fee)These fees typically go to a designated member and/or the person that puts the deal together (me) but technically I suppose it could go to another 3rd party -- it is not part of the asset value they are expenses So my questions:Can I be the designated person to oversee and collect these fees?

There might be some private lender who lend on a 10% acquisition, 10% rehab.

So, instead of putting the actual acquisition price of $1,050,000, I had to add that $260K in. 

it helps to go as a male-female duo,  men won't likely scream in front of the female, and females are more likely to open a door to a couple, rather than a single stranger male. when i did this as my primary acquisition model.. i had 3 teams of door knockers all male female.. male was there for support the females in our teams were the rock star's  very very good at calming poeple down and getting our deals done. but even with this and hitting every single NOD in the 3 county PDX MSA  2 million plus.. 

They will both rent for 2% of acquisition so my question is not about cash flow.  

From a business standpoint acquisition costs are both costs to BUY and to make an asset ready for business use.She's not in business yet.

I’m not sure what work-study is like in graduate nursing school, so I’m not sure if I’ll have W-2 employment.I’m still pretty new to RE, especially when it comes to property acquisition, so I’m not entirely comfortable with private lenders and hard lenders, etc.

@Mitch Kiklas you can get hard money financing that will cover acquisition if you cover rehab costs, this will depend on the investor and it often will depend on your experience. 

Additional acquisitions is higher risk, paying down debt is low risk.