I've found the same advice applies to tenants and PMs "if you think you need to end the relationship, then you need to end the relationship". 

Here are a few things I have done in the past to build a relationship with RE agents:-offer to pay them 2%-hire them as the property manager -set up a JV with them where they get sweat equity-find agents you like and have them door knock for you

I self manage 5 properties but have such a good relationship with the management company that if I need their services, we sign a contract on the property in distress and pay them for time/expenses.

But as I read more it seems like the serious investors have relationships with banks.

Unless you have a good relationship in your local bank.

Rosa, you are on the right path, and you hit the nail on the head when you mentioned "However, I think my problem is not having connections yet" as with any business dealing, Real Estate is dependent on relationships, and not just any relationship, they must be quality relationships with various different resource providers i.e.

Or, more realistically, if you have a history with them and want to stay in relationship then go back and have another conversation with them...maybe there was a miscommunication or they misunderstood a key point while talking about your plan?

Would I be wiser to save a higher downpayment and look for a 3-4 plex that will be likely to break even/ cash flow?

Would I be wiser to save a higher downpayment and look for a 3-4 plex that will be likely to break even/ cash flow?

If putting an offer in requires a preapproval letter or proof of funds that should not be difficult to come by, hopefully you've already built a relationship with a lender who can put them together for you quickly, it should literally take them less than 10 minutes.