It's a true fixer and I need to know if I should just tear it down or if its bones are strong enough to support a complete gut and remodel.

Its very hard for most people to ever leave a JOB, especially if you have family to support and one probably shouldn't even consider it until they have replaced their income. 

Disadvantage: getting a SFH instead of more units under one roof,  as we will live in it we will have to do mortgage payments without other units' support as in a 2-4 unit property.Option 3: wait till equity in out triplex will grow closer to 20% and then refi. 

It is a 30 foot support beam.

I'd like to say I was some genius who waited for the perfect moment, but it all just sort of happened, my business was growing as the housing market crashed.Fast forward a few years to 2012-2014 and my wife at the time and mother to my two kids decided to sneak around, cheat, and have a baby with another man, then claiming it was mine before using this poor kid as extortion to try to get a windfall settlement and child support.

I was hoping to get started by becoming a "deal finder" and wholesaling properties to more experienced investors, making enough money to get out of debt and support my family. 

Anaother option is a flat fee broker, without having any experience it worries me not having training/support.

other option is a flat fee broker, without having any experience it worries me not having training/support.

i work for DMH and we have an entire program dedicated to helping our clients with housing and supportive services.  

Let's show a little grace to the guy folks....David, you have my support.