You're Pushing your potential buyer/buyers to possibly walk away if they can't find solution. more often than not the money you end up missing on, exceeds the 1%-2% coop commission you're trying to save.  

Although, banks have their place, private money is for a specific purpose and a specific type of investor. 

It you think you can re-rent it in three months, then let her pay 4 or 5 months rent to buy out of it, with part of that being a credit for the security deposit money, assuming there are no damage deductions. 

I read on here that it is a waste of time and money to pay any site for help and there is plenty of free info on the web.When I try to google for this free info or lists all I get is sponsored sites trying to sell their programs.

Once you get it, look up the process for filing a temporary restraining order against that person / those persons, and do it. 

6 properties over 6 years is impressive.If you continue on this approach, you may be able to do better than 1 property per year if you make more money with your employer and are generating cash-flow from your renttal properties.Why switch strategies if you have something working for you?

I ask cause an architect costs money and Im not rich.

I lost money, hope you don't!

We tried offering seller financing, money toward buying down someones rate, etc.

Nothing wrong with being a private money lender.