Most folks try to put it under contract asap without telling anyone except their clients as we have a fiduciary duty.  

Because I want the investors to get well above average returns, I'm always looking for the rare pearls, exceptional deals that will pay investors handsomely while leaving something for me too for finding, creating and managing the opportunity.

They all are , except Monticello .

Nothing really stops a property manager from such extra charges except the agreement you signed.Whether preparing 1099s should be included in their management fee is subject to negotiation if not spelled out in the agreement.

For ease, most of my materials come directly from Home Depot, except for paint. 

My buyer has little recourse except to take seller to court.   

I did not have any costs associated with my first few wholesale deals except that I took a contractor with me to get a bid for repairs on the first 4 or 5.

Very few real investors  are opposed to wholesaling if the numbers make since except @James Wise ;) he is against it. 

I am actually pretty open to all of  your mentioned criteria, except the the first...1.

The option of selling now and waiting to buy might be a solid option except you will not be able to do a 1031 exchange, which may not be a problem since you have lived in the property for 2 years.