Are there any good alternatives to a 1031 exchange for a back to back escrow deal, since the property in question will never be under my name?

Very stable STR regulations & have many options for new investors in this market. 

I've looked into wholesaling, which is an option, but I have basically no connections with buyers and I'd be nervous to start with no connections.

Another option is to go to investor groups in your area (investor conferences, seminars, etc.). 

Posting on a local RE group in that area might be a good option as well to get recommendations from others

I've been in REI a long time and have seen the good, the bad, and the ugly, but $60k of damage from one tenant indicates gross negligence on the part of the property manager.I'd suggest three things: 1) Study the contract you have with the PM company, and talk with your attorney ASAP to see whether a lawsuit is feasible/advisable, 2) Get at least three bids from other contractors on the repairs (and before you hire any contractors, study up thoroughly on how to properly vet and manage contractors--there's plenty of info about this on BP) 3) Don't do any more business with the PM company (or any contractors they refer), and keep them at arm's length while you discuss your legal options with your attorney.

I don't want to have to refinance due to a very low interest rate on this property.Are there other suggestions if quit claim deeding this isn't an option? 

You can do options on stock but you can get calls.  

We recevied a proposal from a billboard company to build a full sized billboard. the research has been conducted and a written lease has been written and presented to us for 1k/mo, 20 years + 20 yr option, with 10% rate increases every 5 yrs.

Hard work and sacrifice will work as a magnet for people to help you because they see you going through what they went throughFor financing options I like the BP book "investing with no or low money down" but this isn't possible unless you get a really good off market deal.