I had a 750k pre-approval lined up but due to a break up with my long time gf things have changed , I have about 60k liquid in my savings , another 14k in my Roth ira and another 19k also in the stock market for a gr...

I'm not saying you should be looking to take advantage of anyone. 

And, yes, the servicers do have the advantage; but Chase is the only one I have heard of that is using that advantage.

Therefore, selling ASAP and attempting to break even/preserving capital if possible to be able to take advantage of that coming opportunity is a priority.

The developer is trying to take advantage of her ignorance in these matters. 

I only have 2 investment properties and considering tax advantages, is it worth becoming a licensed real estate agent?

I also just want to be finished with them and just give them tge entire deposit back, but I feel so taken advantage of by them.

This seems very advantageous to me because it would allow me to claw back cash paid to taxes in previous years, where I was in the mindset of "show as much profit as I can, so I can continue to get loans and grow my businesses."   

They have longer maturities and are tax advantaged.

When it does, will you look back and say to yourself, I took advantage of the situation and learned how to turn my negative perspective (feelings of uncertainty, failure, lack of systems or strategy, etc.) into opportunities for success.