You simply need to change that thought by educating on the subject, surrounding yourself with people doing it and then taking action.Educate.

If this answer was too complicated, just focus on education and networking for now.

Good luck on your journey and keep up on the networking/educating.

You will want to be sure to speak with your licensed tax advisor (which your IRA custodian is not) and educate yourself on the concept before you move forward.

How i would start in your position is continuing educating yourself on what types of rental strategies resonate with you.

The proposed legislation would prohibit IRAs from holding privately-placed equity and debt securities and other investments that require the IRA owner to meet certain minimum financial, educational or licensing requirements.

Since I have a spouse who is not interested in live-in flips, I will be looking at already renovated properties or cosmetic fixers.We have no timeline so I am trying to get into as many homes during this Seller's market to educate myself on all of the variables involved with a historic home.

My biggest opportunity in these conversations is to educate people.  

EDUCATE YOURSELF - yes, it will take time, but will lead to a selection that better meets your expectations & avoids potentially costly surprises!

Good luck and get educated!