Join a local facebook RE group and ask who the best commercial lenders are and ask for a point of contact instead of just the name of the bank. 

I have contacts with each company that I would be more than happy to connect you with.

Like contact cases, wrapped toothbrushes among other things.They do get used and I am sure they are appreciated.They might not state it in their 5 star review, but I am betting that it creates positive thoughts and that helps the reviews.

I’ve had several investor clients go with a new (to me)/ unproven lender because of a slightly lower rate promise only to get burned by that lender (closing costs were higher, appraisal costs much higher and appraisal was a nightmare, main point of contact gave us the clear to close as we passed our financing contingency then just before closing someone from the underwriting department we previously didn’t know existed said we need a few more days and seller didn’t agree because they had a higher backup offer, jeopardizing the earnest money and losing the property, etc).

Who do I contact first? 

(This is a blessing IMO.)So I said I understood her decision and would contact her with further instructions.I sent her a move out letter via email the following day with a couple of options for a timeline, info for scheduling a final walk through, etc… now she is ghosting me.

is there someone else that y'all know of there I need to contact to get my second house cost seg completed?

Contact wholesalers and maybe do some digging of your own via driving for dollars. 

You can contact him here on Bigger Pockets if needs be. 

Keep your chin up and try to limit contact with your lawyer to dealing with actual issues with opposing counsel.