How else can this be achieved?

The property is your investment there is no way you should be allowing someone else to make a profit off of your efforts without getting a cut.

But... if you are concerned about her ‘well being’ and she has to sell, wouldn’t you rather she sold to you instead of someone else?

The owner should be "somewhere else" so you can "blame" decisions on him.

I would hate to do this and then the banks are saying no on the loan when everything else is lined up perfect, like over 800 credit score and low debt to income ratio. 

If it has appreciated enough you might use the cash somewhere else with better cash flow.I doubt you’ll get cash flow near Carson either but since you’ll be getting BAH anyway you should definitely buy again with the intent to rent out or sell after you PCS again.

The water is turned off and they have an apartment somewhere else.

John Sims Consulting was created by John Sims as a result of his other company Black Oncy lending ripping off so many people- taking upfront fees to fund someone else's ligestyle

All in one software that can locate cash buyers, distressed properties; the liens and notes on them and everything else needed to know. 

A lot of YT investors talk about a minimum of 10% cap rate.Since I don't come from the "real world" experience, and all I know is what I've heard from somebody else, is this "minimum of 10% cap rate" rarely applicable?