If you initially bought the property together then, even though you are not responsible on the Note, you Did have to execute the Mortgage document securing the property.

like I said, this is sort of a self talk and my initiation to becoming accountable in my investing process and figuring this out.

Can anyone share any tips to getting over the initial fear and doubt?

As this is a safety issue and something the owner is initiating it would be their cost. 

@Douglas Spence I initially was doing cleaning myself, I very quickly hired a cleaner to be more hands off.

I recently had this conversation with my CPA who specializes in real estate and he advised me that a simple subpoena will pierce the corporate veil of any LLC, despite what LLC firms may pitch to you on their initial consultation. 

Assuming $2600 rent, with 10% prop-mgmt fee, plus a 15% contingency, that leaves $100/mo cashflow which seems like is cutting it way too closeMy main goal would be to diversify my investments beyond stocks and bonds; also would be good to be able to apply the initial leverage I used during the purchase for a longer period of time for appreciation (not sure if that's sound logic tho); and finally would be nice to not pay the $30-40k in selling closing costs.Thanks in advance!

Therefore, the lender must receive notice of the initial auction when the tax collector sells the certificate, as well as notice of the redemption period if the certificate is sold Typically, the lender will step in and outbid you for the certificate at the initial auction so it can protect its interests.

We just refi'd our 24 unit we bought 2 years ago into agency debt, and pulled out our initial capital plus another 100%.  

There isn't any benefit in your initial post.