Who can direct me to someone who is familiar with this concept and also lead me to education on this topic?

My apologies if this is a little off-topic. 

Now that I am trying to find ways to help our family with investing, she supports me, but I need a way to use the cash cow we have.I have not been able to find an article or explanation to get her to understand refinancing, maybe I don't understand it, to explain it to her.

coming across as fair, not pushy and confidence.I don't mined going off topic if the timing is right, that sometimes good to "brake the ice".

I live in a SoCal beach town now, but love the mountains, lakes, etc. as well.Relatively convenient access to a major airport would be valuable to meI hope this topic isn't too far removed from the real estate discussions most commonly posted to the forums, but I thought many in the Bigger Pockets community would have done a similar analysis in their personal lives and might point me in some interesting directions. 

Ranking of top 8 landlord friendly states and their tax rate of purchase price: 1.TX (1.81%) 2.IN (0.85%) 3.CO (0.6%) 4.AZ (0.72%, 5.FL (0.97%) 6.KY (0.72%) 7.GA (0.83%) 8.MS (0.52%)SOURCES http://capstonecapitalusa.com/the-most-friendly-8-landlord-states/ https://morrisinvest.com/blog/2016/12/21/5-most-landlord-friendly-states https://www.biggerpockets.com/forums/52/topics/175527-the-most-landlord-friendly-states?

Investment property taxes are NOT capped, and, as you can imagine, have been a big topic in the past 2-3 years as property values in this area continue to climb.

I can find classified military manuals online, information about nearly any topic in a few seconds, I've been using the internet for 20 years, I'm pretty good at it.

There was some rudeness and negativity, but that’s a given from people who know more about a topic and don’t want to answer questions.

I actually didn't know where to post this since my circumstance involves a couple big topics.