Two judges threw the case out.

If your a good judge of character then meet with them on a specific property and have them walk it with you and give you numbers.

Landlord tenant court is more like Judge Judy than Law and Order.

@Jason Rogers Okay, so probate was opened....so What did happen, what was the judge’s decision?  

While one person saying a provider is a scam isn't necessarily true, hundreds of people making this same declaration is something to pay attention to.

BUT me declaring that I'm being reasonable isn't terribly constructive either.  

Looking for someone who has clean record, good credit or at least stable employment who is mature would be better judge of character than just looking for a female who can charm you at the showing of the property.

Lurkers: It's probably best that you not communicate to folks practicing real estate without a license, unless you have a lawyer on the horn for the entire conversation, a lawyer of your choosing that the "wholesaler" is paying for.Friendly reminder that when it comes to real estate, if it's not in writing (in the form of a contract signed by all parties) then there's a good chance that it didn't happen and a judge will not care about your story.OP: Call a real estate lawyer.

- would you pay cash instead for one unit (though I'm loathe to tie up my cash in one unit) and try to refi after closing & proof of cash flows (or will this still be an issue as I'm out of the country, with no declarable income, though my fiance has very good income)- are there any other markets I should consider?

I talked with a lawyer he told me no judge would side with me against an elderly lady.