At first, I️ was afraid the broker would hog all the good deals and when I️ shared my fear he explained he can’t buy everything which makes perfect sense to me.

You'll find loads of information here and people always willing to help when you feel stuck.Don't be afraid to ask for help and/or advice trust me I do it almost every day!

I am afraid the woman who has been there for 15 years may consider it "Her House" and will refuse to move unless I evict.

I learn more when I DIY and cost seem to be better, but not afraid to be passive as well.  

I was also afraid of being scammed but not in this case because I knew people working for the developer personally, otherwise I wouldn't have done it.

I would love to "House Hack" for this first property, but I am afraid that it might be too far from my workplaces in Orange County.

My husband and I love houses and lands, however, I'm afraid we love them to much to sell once we own them, haha.

Then if you are only seeing deals at 80% of the ARV, your 40k will buy those down to 60% and your portfolio will be expanded.If you dont' do anything though, you won't gain that 40k from the other areas to use to buydown a deal in the area you want.So, if your goal is really to grow, thats what I would suggest:1) Keep looking and keep putting in offers. 2) Expand your area and don't be afraid to drive further out to get a deal. 

Don't be afraid to professionally stand up to people when they try to bully you into renting to them.

And  you shouldn't not do something you can do just because you're afraid you'll get questioned about it.