While I have an emotional attachment to this property (I knew the deceased previous owner, and hoping to own the other two properties next to it as a little compound), I'm also ready to walk away and say this isn't right for me and my real goals in REI.

The way that I look at it is.. you are going to find many people who are emotionally attached to their home and will want to try to save it and attempt a modification to stay in their home.

The 2 day training was all pressure tactics and they use your emotions to get you to sign up for the expensive program which was held in CA where they present on a huge stage with lights and music with a party atmosphere.  3 days of partying and only enough content to demonstrate some possibilities in RE.

use your own closing attorney (theirs take forever) ( using theirs. my deal took 9 weeks on a under 25k all cash deal)Dont get emotional or in a biding war.

And when my male friends and relatives visit me and hang out in the living room, how she received the emotional abuse and vocabulary abuse by listening to our talking, and how these abuse to damage her mental health..

Emotion drives house hackers, so they will pay more than a seasoned investor.

Few agents have the experience and ability to let "the numbers speak" on a deal and not make it emotional (which is what is required for an investment). 

Am I being crazy and putting too much emotion/desire into this?

Emotions need not be considered. 

Ignore the emotional, you’ll find out the hard way some folks are like that and some lead sources aren’t the best.