If you do a 1031 exchange and purchase at least as much as you sell and use all of the proceeds in the purchase of replacement investment property you will declare non-recognition of any gain including depreciation recapture on your form 8824 filed with your next return.

For me I like the fact that I can get access to the comps, leads through expired and cancell listings and have access to preview homes to get a good indept understanding of micro markets in my area. 

The good news for you is that Indiana is a Reciprocal state with Pennsylvania ( use form WH-47), which means you do not have to file separate tax returns for each state. you may have to file for the income made in that state to them but you do not have to report income from PA to them. it does get complicated - Nj and PA are reciprocal states and my properties are in PA and my CPA is here in NJ. i suggest you hire a CPA, tell your wife it is not that you do not trust her, you just want to relieve her burden of doing the now complicated taxes.

Does anyone have advice for me here?

Fire or major water damage and extensive mold are walk aways for me, but other wouldn't care as long as the price is right.

I turned to the management company (everything is recorded in emails that the payment was made, etc.)I turned directly to hoaThey claim that they can not do anything because the matter is already handled by lawyers.And if I wanted to sue their management company.I turned to the lawyers (every call to them is subject to an astronomical fee, the management company that manages the properties for me,In fact, unknowingly, inflated the debt when they tried to find out what it was about and why the whole mess?

For me, when these issues arise, a quick email that they're working on it will suffice and then they can update me as they make progress.

I am in a rut, and books have always been a good start for me when it comes to solving problems

I own a duplex in Bend, house hacked it and it has worked well for me...but @karent is is right, it's a boom or bust town.

Just lazy I would rather her do the leg work for me.