I can only imagine stress levels are high.I'd have to recommend screening her as part of your due diligence.

I don't at the moment have enough capital to make this happen but, if you do, I can't even begin to stress how powerful this tool is.

I just want to stress a little caution on this topic.

the easiest path without stress is to get into affordable housing. start with a city agency as a project manager or an asset manager. this way you learn multifamily deals, tax credit deals etc, then you can branch off on your own.

Going further out of LA and OC, the numbers looked way better but it occurred to me that I would just have too many properties (one day) and that just multiplies the time and stress so I'm aiming to stay closer to home even though it will take longer and cost more. 

(please note the only person who signed the agreement and listed as tenant is the lady).This is causing a lot of emotional stress and I’m unable to focus or think about anything else.

I'd say you'd save yourself a lot of stress and trouble in the future by avoiding it right now if you both can't see eye to eye.  

But it sounds like you were meant to be in that stressful situation and prevail!

Was affordable enough that I could make mistakes and recover with little financial stress.

We can come up with a marketing plan and strategy together.More specific to your question, I personally like the idea of driving for dollars: you get a visual confirmation of stress and the list you build is unique to you.