However if your first property is, let's say a mixed use or 3-4 units you have a better chances with a portfolio lender. 

Some people get a little 'mixed up.'

Never mix family and money!

Listen carefully for Bull Crap, don't drink too much, have lunch with those you respect. leave your credit with your spouse. 

I would just stick a for “ rent sign “in the front yard like a boss and go grab a drink

I joke about drinking beer and haven’t touched alcohol in 6 years so .. done things are said in light hearted manner .do watch out for drug references and ghetto culture references .

These 2/1 units or a mix? 

Evictions are going to cost you and you're going to have to hire people, you had better be clear about that in your brain before you start walking down that path, at least in my county.What I worry about is what I can't predict: cheating wife, sudden employment termination, huge gambling loss, drinking and pills binge leading to suicidal behavior.

It is best to mix some of the new owner occupied segments with absentee owners since the absentees are getting a lot of offers in the mail in most markets.

My question is can there be a lease to own opportunity mixed with BRRRR?